Happy Friday everyone! Peace and love to you! Have a great 4th of July weekend!
Now, how many people are disappointed in your relationship or marriage? You know, it’s not what you imagined, or even fantasized about? The passion and in-love feelings have dwindled and you start thinking that this sucks! This is not what I signed up for!
Do you actually have realistic expectations for what a happy and healthy relationship is? It’s not just my definition of that, it needs to be for the both of you..
When times are tough, stressful and perhaps you are not feeling connected, what do you do about it? Do you bitch and complain? Better yet, do you bash your partner to your friends or family members? Hell, everyone does this, right? Well, you need to stop that immediately!
When the times are tough and not feeling connected, I want you talk about it with your partner! Not yelling, screaming ,or remaining silent! Relationships do ebb and flow. It’s when the relationships ebb that you need to dig deep and realize it may just be a normal relationship condition or process, then reach for your partner’s hurt or pain.
Though talk about it, be open and honest, versus hateful in discussing that your relationship may not be what you would like, or that you’d like it better! Terrific! Then start looking at what changes are needed to make you both feel more alive, connected and passionate in the relationship again.
Don’t be ashamed either if you need professional help! You have a broken bone, you go to the doctor right? Hell even a tooth is bothering you, you go to the Dentist… So…. I know it’s not easy talking about the emotional guts and soul of your essence and relationship, though seek help if needed… 🙂
Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor