 Love is a story. It's a journey of bliss, or setbacks, challenges and joy. Remember you are the author of your story. How do you want to be loved, to be desired, respected. Do you want affection, passionate sex and to be a priority in your story?
What is your leading role partner about? Does he challenge you mentally, honest to you no matter if you like it or not? Remember, you are the author..... What is your love story? and remember, you can rewrite your love story if your past one was not a best seller.........  Yes, we all need to learn key elements in humanism and world view into people and kindness. We do not know everyone's story or circumstances... A few years ago I just finished teaching a few college classes, and was on my way to my counseling office. Well this "young punk ass" (well there were other expletives used) ran a red light, turned left instead of doing the turn about. Well, this young punk was pulled over by the police... I yelled, "serves you right asshole!"
Well, the young man and police were rushing and then this young man grabs his lifeless young daughter out of the back seat (about 8 months old) and rushed into the cop car then hurried onto the emergency room.... My heart sank...... With my knowledge, training and back ground in counseling psychology; albeit, i was reminded yet again about realizing to place myself in other's shoes.. A daily lesson I try to help couples do in my office.... I am forever humbled by that experience... Yes, I am usually humble, though a joking smart ass too; though at that very moment, I was forced to become even more humble with others.. A lesson I'll never forget...  Happy Friday everyone! Peace and love to you! Have a great 4th of July weekend!
Now, how many people are disappointed in your relationship or marriage? You know, it's not what you imagined, or even fantasized about? The passion and in-love feelings have dwindled and you start thinking that this sucks! This is not what I signed up for! Do you actually have realistic expectations for what a happy and healthy relationship is? It's not just my definition of that, it needs to be for the both of you.. When times are tough, stressful and perhaps you are not feeling connected, what do you do about it? Do you bitch and complain? Better yet, do you bash your partner to your friends or family members? Hell, everyone does this, right? Well, you need to stop that immediately! When the times are tough and not feeling connected, I want you talk about it with your partner! Not yelling, screaming ,or remaining silent! Relationships do ebb and flow. It's when the relationships ebb that you need to dig deep and realize it may just be a normal relationship condition or process, then reach for your partner's hurt or pain. Though talk about it, be open and honest, versus hateful in discussing that your relationship may not be what you would like, or that you'd like it better! Terrific! Then start looking at what changes are needed to make you both feel more alive, connected and passionate in the relationship again. Don't be ashamed either if you need professional help! You have a broken bone, you go to the doctor right? Hell even a tooth is bothering you, you go to the Dentist... So.... I know it's not easy talking about the emotional guts and soul of your essence and relationship, though seek help if needed... :) |
AuthorGreg Dudzinski, MS, LPC ArchivesCategories |
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